Love and Self

In Bhavabhuti on Cruelty and Compassion, Shulman discusses love within the Ramayana, and what I found most interesting was that the same terminology used to describe the self in our previous readings (veil, recesses of the heart, and cave) was used also to describe love. Shulman does touch on how the story coincides with self, however, I was more interested by the wording he uses. He did mention that the perhaps the gap created by the "remembered self/world and its re-encountered contours" gives "rise to the problem of loving," which is also interesting, as interaction with another ensures a loss of focus or presence of the self (68-69). The main passage I am referring to for terminology is:

"He tells us this, in a variation on a phrase that is repeated almost incessantly in this play: the words "wound the innermost recesses of the heart." As the verses themselves suggest, and the hero now confirms, love is a matter of some deep and hidden innerness. Notice the sense of a potential veil within the mind, dividing active from latent memory-- and the hurt that comes with penetrating the veil." (62-63)

As well as this explanation of the self:

"the self-- fluidity of experience, that alters the world, and perhaps the self, even as one experiences life anew through familiar patterns" (68)

In which circumstance is the terminology/metaphor used to describe both love and self considered interchangeable? Are love and self sometimes considered the same principle (in what sect would this occur)? Even though in this piece, Shulman discusses love blurring or defocusing the self, it also seems as if in the text as Sita revives Rama she is bringing him closer (physically in life) to discovering the self/ his self. This love sets in motion the process of clarifying or unveiling the self ("ripening" 50), yet to what extent is the loved and the lover differentiated?